A day to focus on love… Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day can be one of the happiest days of the year, or it can be one of the loneliest days. It can be a reminder of what we long to feel from someone in our life. Love is all around us, yet so many people young and old, may not “feel it”.
Whether it is a couple with marriage struggles or desperate parents at wit’s end of what to do with their acting out” child or teenager; from my professional background, I could often trace most issues that people came to see me about, right back to someone not feeling loved. Often kids and especially teenagers would act out their frustration, if they did not “feel loved” by their parents.
I also speak from my own personal experience. During my teen years, I was a handful especially for my mom. Why? I didn’t “feel loved”, so I started searching for groups of kids to feel accepted, which got me into all sorts of mischief. Did my mom love me? Absolutely! But she didn’t know how to communicate it in a way that would reach my heart.
In my early 40’s, I read a book that changed my life. It was called “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman. Chapman wrote about a concept of how we all express and receive love in one of Five Love Languages. As I studied it, I immediately could see the reason my mom’s expression of love did not reach my heart. She was speaking a totally foreign language to me. A different Love Language. With this new knowledge, I could consciously speak my mother’s Love Language to her, which drastically healed our relationship.
As a writer and facilitator of workshops; “The Five Love Languages” Workshop has been the most often requested workshop that my husband and I do. We will be offering this workshop on a donation basis, which includes the testing to discover your “Love Language” on Sunday February 16 at 2334 Newton Rd in Cawston. (Cawston/Keremeos Seventh Day Adventist Church) It will start at 2 p.m. and end at 5 p.m. For more info, you can call Donna Marie Hockley at 250 462-7523, or to have a seat saved for you, please call Marjorie 250 499-0201.